Sylvia is an empathy machine. No matter how thick I paint on my brave face, the moment she steps into my little white hospital room, I fall apart. Grief. Sadness. Fear. Those are the pieces of emotional furniture that I move around when I see her. A few months ago, I was the picture of…

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The first order of business in reducing the incidence of rape is to shift the focus FROM the survivors of the crime TO the perpetrators. Once we have put the spotlight on the boys and men who are committing the crime, our cultural tolerance will decrease, the likelihood of prosecution will increase and the consequences will…

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How many times has this happened to you: you’re walking down the street alone and suddenly you feel like you’re being watched. From your peripheral vision, you clock a man loitering on the sidewalk who hasn’t taken his eyes off you and starts cat calling. Do you look at him? If so, then when? If…

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When I was hired by a military contractor to teach harassment and rape prevention to the US Army and Navy, the company gave me my first directive before the team ever taught our first training: “calibrate” the teaching team to show them their confirmation bias. Calibrate a room full of former snipers, career SWAT and…

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Congratulations to the US Women’s Soccer team for TOTALLY dominating Japan in a decisive and dramatic win yesterday. There was a stunning image that defined their victory that caught my attention. One of our players, captured in the throes of  victorious elation, her impressive brawny, athleticism accented by unmistakable pop of color on her nails.…

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In every seminar I have ever presented over the past 11 years, there is always a question about carrying a gun. Many women fantasize about how they would level the playing field and let Smith & Wesson come to their rescue, killing the rapist, ridding the world of one more evil monster. I doubt many…

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