Like a woman who laments, “disgusting!” as she continues to unfold the last third of a centerfold, I found myself 45 pages deep into another one of my ubiquitous inspirational books when an indulgent platitude flew off the page and landed on my head like a bird poop. As a culture of people hungry to…

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Not really. Well, maybe a little. More a scathing indictment of a culture that venerates women who mutilate themselves in a desperate attempt to fit an absurd and unattainable vision of beauty. Miss Montag (aka: Mrs. Pratt) is just another body on the heap of women who have caved into the pressure of abandoning their…

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As I continue to write my book about the journey to Unbreakable, I’m constantly doing research. It’s a lot of talking to people about their current set of tools, their disconnects and of course, I read every self-help book on the shelves. A theme I’m running into a lot with these books is this sticky-sweet,…

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Growing up with bullies, the urge to diffuse conflict and peace-make has become a reflex. Consequently, I compulsively avoid conflict like a red-hot fire poker. Recently, thanks to one of my Mr. Wrongs from on-line dating, I’ve come to discover that certain kinds of conflict are an opportunity to practice maintaining healthy boundaries. It is…

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I believe that self-awareness is at the heart of empowerment. It’s hard to control your circumstances if you don’t understand your own behavior and what you’re bringing to the equation. This was totally brought to bear when I decided to try on-line dating (OLD). When I started OLD, I did it as an act to…

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Since I’ve chosen therapeutic yoga as my path to self-discovery, I’m constantly reminded of what a perfect metaphor it is for adversity of any kind. I tell my students when they come upon a difficult position or movement that creates an intense or unsettling sensation, that is the exact moment that growth or healthy change…

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